New book · Out now
The Missing System
A Compass for Growth-Driven Partners Building a Life Together in the Age of AI. The first book from Dr. Dee Gupta.
You do not lack love. You lack a structure.
About me
I am Dr. Dee Gupta. I have spent more than half a decade in cybersecurity, protecting critical systems where failure is caught early or paid for later. The Missing System began with an uncomfortable observation: every system I secured was monitored continuously, yet the most important partnership in my life was not watched at all.
My work applies that risk-management discipline to modern relationships: a four-direction framework and a measurable Gap Score for growth-driven partners who would rather detect drift than repair a crisis.
Open to public speaking
I speak about what security thinking can teach us about the relationships we care about most: why “nothing is wrong” is the most dangerous sentence two people can say, how drift stays invisible until someone decides to measure, and what changes when the gap between two people becomes a number they can both see.
Available for keynotes, panels, podcasts, and corporate events on relationships, wellbeing, and life in the age of AI.
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